Wondered why, had many thoughts recently. Logical ones and illogical ones. Probably I think too much, did i?

Read FEMALE just now. Came across many interesting articles which I feel like commenting on. Too many yet too little time. Alright, I’ll just comment on some yah?

Article 1 : The Lowdown on Lesbian Lovin’

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Lesbian sex. The mere mention of the term may make straight woman squirm. Every year, the porn industry churns out thousands of videos with girl-on-girl action as their main theme, and when they asked a few heterosexual men what their biggest sexual fantasy was, they said there is nothing more exciting than watching two women get each other off. Lesbians and bisexual women explain why the way they love is spectacular at its best.

These are what they say (Extracted out from the long article) :

For 1 : “It was the most amazing feeling ever… I didn’t want it to stop and I cried because it felt so magical”

For 2 : “The only person who truly knows how to please a woman sexually is another woman.”

For 3 : “Woman like being worshipped in bed, and most men just don’t know how to do that.”

For 4 : “More and more women are turning to lesbian sex as a response to the dissatisfaction they feel towards men.”

For 5 : “Straight men assume that women can’t orgasm unless its with a penis – that is absolutely untrue.”

No to lesbian sex! These are what they say :

Against 1 : I’d rather be with a guy because he would complete me.”

Against 2 : “I think lesbian sex is unnatural. I don’t understand how women can do such a thing.”

Against 3 : “My sister is a gay and my family disown her.”

Against 4 : “Its against my religion. Yuck!”

Against 5 : “Lesbian sex is disgusting – not even something I want to imagine.”

Against 6 : “Why would anyone want to indulge in something as gross as that?”

My thoughts
How you guys feel about Lesbian sex? For or against? My classmates and I had a slight discussion over such issue before. I forced them to think and imagine about the procedure. (Evil me!!) We were pretty disgusted after imagining. However, I realized that some stuffs they said were pretty true. E.g. “For 2”, “3” and “4”. I’ve seen and heard many cases like that. Besides the reason a woman was hurt by a guy before, the major reason for a straight women to become a lesbian or a bisexual, is usually because their guy can’t satisfy them fully. Or, I had heard about cases whereby couples divorced or separated due to the same reason mentioned above. Why is that so? I’m not very sure exactly. Probably guys are some insensitive and selfish creatures who just want to enjoy themselves? Alright, I’m speaking rubbish. Its late at night you see..

Anyway, I’m kinda neutral about lesbian sex. Not because I’m a “mini-lesbian” during my primary education of course!!! I believe they have their own reasons and likings. But definitely, I’m not into it!! I’m a straight woman now alright. Please get that straight. If not, I wouldn’t love my deary so dearly.. hee!

Article 2 : 8 tips from those who have LOVED & LOST

Won’t be discussing on all the examples they provide. It’ll take years for me to type all.

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1. Learn to compromise
A relationship isn’t always about you. To be a good partner, you have to be supportive, loyal, sympathetic, and up to a point, selfless. E.g. When your partner had plans, support him/her instead of pouring cold water on him/her. Things can’t always go on your way. He/she live for himself/herself, not for you.

2. Hold off the sex (Usually for women)
Sleeping with a guy/girl too early on in a relationship is a surefire way to ruin any potential you may have to bond as a couple emotionally. Sexually intimacy is best saved for when you are both in love and committed to each other. Relationship sex is special – share that sacred part of yourself too soon and you leave yourself open to hurt. Also, sex tends to cloud judgement and binds you to other things in the relationship.

3. Know his/her friends (Usually for women)
If his/her friends are a lazy and unambitious lot, cheat regularly on their girlfriends/boyfriends, or have tendencies towards physical violence, warning bells should be ringing in your head. Never assume that your man’s/women’s friends have no role to play in his relationship with you.

4. Lying is hurtful
No one is saying that you have to be blatantly honest 100% all the time, but telling lies isn’t going to get you anywhere. Chronic lies leads to trust problems.

5. What’s past is past
Comparing your partner to your exes, or constantly talking about them, is going to make your guy/girl wonder where your loyalties lie. Its likely to make him/her feel alienated, isolated, and rejected, and if that isn’t a recipe for resentment, we don’t know what is.

6. Watch your words
Do you call your partner hurtful names like ‘stupid’, ‘idiot’, and ‘useless’? Insulting people you love shows a lack of decency, respect and manners. Giving in to your anger this way counts as verbal and emotional abuse.

7. Take your time to bond
Spend quality time with the man/woman you love. If you don’t allocate a few hours each week to connect, share your thoughts or just catch up on each other’s lives, you risk losing the passion you once shared together.

8. The dirt on flirting
There is nothing wrong with being flirtatious, but does your boyfriend/girlfriend approve you making eyes at other guys/girls and playing footsie with his/her friends under the table? You wouldn’t like it if he/she acted similarly. If you can’t help yourself, perhaps you should rethink your ability to sustain a committed relationship.

My thoughts
Pretty good tips for those who are attached! Please, learn and change for the better. Do not just sit and wait for your partner to change for you. Its simply injustice for him/her.

In every relationship, there are bound to have at least 1 of these problems. As for my relationship with deary, we had numerous problems especially those mentioned above. Definitely not all but most of them. The most obvious ones are points 3, 4, 7, and 8. Though we had many problems like that, we chose to face it and solve them one by one. It is not easy and the result is yet to know. At least we tried our best. I believe that in a relationship, it’s not a one-sided thingy. Both parties have to make an effort to change for one another, for the better of course. It can be quite tiring if only one party is changing and you are just lazing around and pushing your luck to ignore it. Eventually, he/she will get sick of you.. yes you..